"I can’t miss someone unless they let me miss them. There’s this
behavioral science thing tied in with lab rat studies (aren’t all
behavioral science things tied into studies of rats somehow?) that says
that any reward becomes mundane when it is constant. If people won money
every time they pulled the arm of a slot machine, they probably
wouldn’t develop addictions to gambling. If you eat a gallon of ice
cream every day for the entire summer, ice cream isn’t super delicious
again until October. Yes, I am speaking from experience on that one. If
your live-in girlfriend makes you coffee every morning, it becomes
habitual and you stop appreciating it. If you metaphorically crawl so
far up a partner’s butt that they never get any distance from you, they
can’t miss you… and getting things you’ve had the chance to want is so
very delightful."
i read stoya's blog.