Sometimes I think growing up is just being more okay with things not working the way you want all the time.
When I was younger I would get so blindingly, terribly frustrated when things weren't right. Even now, the only times I get angry are when i feel injustice or that I need to vent righteous anger somehow. But I learn that the calm one always wins. And that being numb, and quiet, you notice the activity and noise of the world more. It's sad to lose your natural instinct though. I can't decide which is better.
In the bible we were taught, be as innocent as doves and as cunning as snakes.